NatNat Your Doula
You don't need someone to tell you how to give birth.
You need someone who helps you decide what's right for you.
Because nobody else gets to make the decisions on your pregnancy, birth or postnatal period.
Pregnancy is full of opinions.
Friends. Family. Midwives. Consultants. Instagram. TikTok. Google.
Before long, it can feel like everybody has a plan for your pregnancy except you.
That isn't because you're incapable.
It's because nobody ever teaches you how to make decisions with confidence.
I'm Natalie, founder of The You Decide Method™, and I support women and families that want more than a birth plan, or another 'what to pack in your hospital bag' checklist. They want to understand their options, understand what they're being told by the healthcare professionals, trust themselves and walk into labour knowing that every decision belongs to them. It's never about birthing without fear, a pain free labour or achieving the Instagram worthy birth photos.
Whether you choose a hospital birth, home birth, birth centre,
planned caesarean or something completely different, my job
isn't to convince you on what the right choice is, it's to help you
make decisions you'll never look back on and regret.
My only goal is to support you through the most incredible time
of your life, not promise you a perfect birth or a specific outcome.
We all know that could never be guaranteed, birth loves a curve ball and even with the most attractive, laminated and detailed birth plan, it can mean nothing if you don't understand why you've chosen those things in the first place.
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South West & South East of England
You're not looking for the perfect birth.
You're looking for confidence.
Maybe this is your first baby.
Maybe you've been left traumatised by a previous birth.
Or maybe you've already realised that every appointment seems to end with someone telling you what they think you should do.
You don't need another opinion. You need someone who can help you understand what's happening, ask the questions nobody else tells you to ask, and remind you that you are still the person making the decisions.
Because when you understand your rights, your options and your body, everything changes.
Not because birth suddenly becomes predictable. If only ey !
But because you stop feeling powerless.
This isn't about creating the perfect birth plan.
Babies don't give a damn about your colour-coded birth preferences.
Labour doesn't care about your playlist.
Sometimes everything goes exactly as you'd imagined.
Sometimes your baby throws the entire plan out of the window.
The goal has never been a perfect birth.
The goal is that whatever happens, you're making informed decisions every step of the way instead of feeling like birth is happening to you.
That's the difference.
How I help
When you work with me, you're getting far more than someone who turns up when labour starts.
You'll have someone who helps you untangle confusing information, prepares you for the conversations nobody warns you about, supports you through the moments that feel overwhelming and reminds you, over and over again, that this is your pregnancy and your birth.
Everything we do together is guided by The You Decide Method™.
Not because it's another course or another list of rules.
It's simply the framework I use to help every family build confidence, understand their choices and make decisions that genuinely feel right for them.
Birth changes women.
Physically. Emotionally. Mentally.
Sometimes forever.
I've watched women arrive convinced they couldn't do this.
Terrified of saying no.
Scared of questioning a consultant.
Convinced everybody else knew better than they did.
And I've watched those same women calmly ask difficult questions, change their minds when something no longer felt right, walk into theatre feeling completely at peace with a planned caesarean, transfer from a planned home birth without guilt, or confidently birth their babies at home because that's what still felt right.
None of those births looked the same.
But every one of those women owned her decisions.
That's what I want for you.
Your decisions.
If you're looking for someone to tell you exactly what to do, I'm probably not your doula.
But if you're looking for someone who'll help you understand your options, challenge misinformation, support your choices and remind you that this is your journey, I'd love to walk alongside you.
Book your free discovery call today and lets have a chat.
Why families trust me with one of the biggest days of their lives.
🩷Informed Choice
I won't tell you how to give birth.
I'll help you understand your options
so every decision is yours.
🌿Support Without Judgement
Home & Free birth
Hospital birth.
VBAC.
Caesarean.
🤍Birth Rights
Know your rights.
Ask questions confidently.
Understand what informed consent
really means.
🌿Real, Honest Support
No pressure.
No agenda.
Just honest support from someone who's completely in your corner.
Hi, Im Natalie.
I had my first daughter in 1998 and my second in 2017.
Like so many women, I thought birth was something that happened to me. I trusted that the professionals knew best, I followed the system, and I didn't realise there were other options.
Looking back, I know both of my births could have been very different if I'd understood my choices and felt confident enough to ask more questions.
Everything changed years later when my eldest daughter told me she was pregnant.
She said something that completely stopped me in my tracks.
"Mum, I'm planning a freebirth... and I want you to be my doula."
I had no idea what a freebirth was.
That one conversation sent me down a path that completely changed my understanding of pregnancy and birth. I immersed myself in evidence, birth physiology, informed choice and birth rights. The more I learned, the more I realised how many women, just like me, were making huge decisions without ever being told they had alternatives.
That journey led me to train as a doula, and I haven't looked back.
Today, I've supported more than 40 births and over 100 families through pregnancy, birth and the early postnatal period.
I've supported home births, hospital births, freebirths, VBACs, planned caesareans and pregnancies that others have labelled "high risk."
But qualifications and numbers aren't what matter most to me.
What matters is making sure every woman I support knows she has choices.
I'll never tell you how you should give birth. I'll never push you towards one path over another. My role is to help you understand your options, ask the questions that matter and feel confident making decisions that are right for you and your family.
Because when your baby is born, I don't want you looking back wondering, "What if I'd known that?"
I want you looking back knowing every decision was truly yours.
The Knowledge Behind My Support
I trained as a doula with When Push Comes to Shove, where I qualified as a certified doula. Since then, I've gone on to become a Doula Mentor within the organisation, supporting and guiding aspiring doulas through their own training journey. I've also completed specialist VBAC training with The VBAC Hub, allowing me to better support families navigating birth after caesarean and those wanting to fully understand their options.
I'm passionate about learning and believe that, just like birth itself, education should never stand still. I regularly keep up to date with the latest research, evidence, professional guidance and developments in maternity care, ensuring the information I share with families is current, balanced and evidence-based.
Over the years, I've built an extensive library of trusted resources covering everything from pregnancy and birth physiology to birth rights, informed decision-making, newborn care and postnatal recovery. Clients who book The Complete Doula Experience or The Signature Birth & Beyond Experience receive exclusive access to this ever-growing resource library, giving them reliable information to explore alongside the personalised support I provide throughout their journey.
For me, being a doula isn't just about being present on the day your baby is born. It's about making sure you feel informed, confident and genuinely supported every step of the way.